In relationships, whether romantic or professional, or even friendship, words have an enormous weight. What someone says and how they say it can reveal much more than meets the eye.

Shi Heng Yi, renowned Shaolin master and lecturer, warns that there are certain phrases that should not be overlooked. Listening to them can be the sign that it is time to set limits and, in some cases, step away to protect your emotional peace.

In this article, we summarize the 5 warning signs that Shi Heng Yi mentions in his speech, combining ancient wisdom with concepts of modern psychology.

If you know them, this can help you avoid toxic situations and stay true to your values:

1. The first warning sign

There are phrases that, even though they seem innocent, actually show a lack of respect for your emotions.

If a man minimizes your feelings or makes you feel like you’re “overreacting,” it’s a clear sign of emotional immaturity.

Such types of comments seek to invalidate your experience and can be the beginning of manipulation dynamics.

2. The toxic phrase that devalues you

If you hear phrases that downgrade your worth or ability, please stop. Expressions such as “you will never find someone better” or “without me you are nothing” are indicators of psychological manipulation.

These types of words are often used to exert control and lower your self-esteem.

3. The most common manipulative tactic

There are phrases that seem worried about you, but in fact they’re control tactics. For instance: “I’m doing it for your good” or “You don’t know what’s best for you.” Though they sound protective, their real goal is to make decisions for you and reduce your independence.

4. The Emotional Danger Signal

As a man constantly justifies himself by saying “that’s how I am” to avoid taking responsibility for his behavior, it is a warning sign. No one has the right to hurt you or disrespect you under the excuse of their “personality”.

These types of phrases are often used to avoid changing and perpetuating harmful behaviors.

5. The final sentence that indicates that you must leave

If you hear veiled or overt threats, such as “no one else is going to love you,” or “if you leave, you’ll regret it”, it’s time to walk away. These expressions are attempts to keep you in a relationship through fear. Recognizing them in time can save you much suffering.

How to protect your energy and well-being

Shi Heng Yi reminds us that detecting these phrases is not enough: it is crucial to take action. Protecting your energy involves setting clear boundaries and sticking to them. If you notice that a person doesn’t respect your emotions, your value, or your decisions, walking away is the healthiest act you can do for yourself.

Keep in mind: your emotional peace is invaluable. Maintaining relationships where you feel safe, respected, and valued should be your priority!